Is the communication in your romantic relationship gone or none existent? Are you interested in attempting to restart the communication in your relationship? If you answered, “yes.” the information provided here would help you to achieve your desired goal. The facts-of-life, shows and proves that a relationship may stumble along for a while without money, love, and sex, but it cannot survive without communication.
Examples Of Communication Problems
The following are examples of what happens in a relationship where there is a communication problem: (a) both of you avoid each other because you are not interested in talking with each other, (b) when you open your mouth to say something, it’s either negative, insulting, blaming, or accusatory in tone; (c) when your spouse or partner asks you a question or says something to you, even though it might be a compliment, you act irritated, or stay silent; (d) both of you let your concerns and dissatisfaction with each other to build-up without talking about it. Then, one day it results into a big out-of-control argument or fight. Is this happening in your relationship?
Laying The Foundations For A Solution
I will show you something very simple, that will not cost you anything, to help you restart the communication which has disappeared from your relationship. When you apply what I am about to show you, it works like magic, but you must first lay the foundation for it to work. This foundation, relies on another basic fact-of-life, that another person will only listen to what you have to say to them, if you make them feel comfortable and respect their own concerns and issues too. You should treat your spouse or partner with respect, avoid all arguments, treat him or her nice. In simple terms, make your spouse comfortable before you apply the next step.
The Two Sheets of Paper Magical Act
I would like you to do the following: (a) get four blank sheets of paper. Two of them would be for you and two for your spouse or partner, (b) on one of those blank sheets of paper, write a title or heading which states: “10 Great Qualities About You That I Like:” (c) on the other blank sheet of paper write a title or heading which states: “10 Things I Do That Will Destroy Our Relationship That I Will Change;” (d) you must complete your own two lists and give them to your spouse or partner, at a time he or she is relaxed and in a good mood, (e) and give your spouse the other two sheets with the same title and heading, to be completed, (f) politely request, that you would like both of you to discuss and find solutions for the issues raised in your lists. And don’t forget to give your spouse or partner a kiss for being a good sport about this exercise.
The Results And Solutions
This simple exercise works like magic all the time. Why does it work. It works because you demonstrated extraordinary courage, and the responsibility to seek a mutual solution to your problems, without blaming or pointing fingers, but by identifying things that you do wrong too.
It is uncommon to find a spouse or partner, in a troubled relationship who would willingly admit, that part of their problems may be something which they were doing wrong too. By doing this list, any spouse who is a caring, decent human being, and who truly loves you, will not only respect you for doing this, but will cooperate with you to find solutions to your relationship problems. It works like magic.
Go ahead and try it and be proud of yourself for bringing peace and harmony back into your relationship with such a simple idea. Once your partner or spouse completes his or her list, you should both decide the time to go over the lists and discuss it together in a peaceful way. You should exchange the your lists: you should read aloud the things he or she wrote and he or she should read aloud the things you wrote. Try it.
And the most magical and transcending part of this exercise, is the surprising realization of how much you are loved, valued, and admired by your spouse or partner. This simple exercise will restart and repair the communication problems in your relationship and put you back on the right track.
A Sign For Leaving The Relationship
Abuse is not love. If you are abused in a relationship, it is a very serious matter and you should begin to consider leaving such a relationship. If your spouse or partner gets angry at you in any way shape or form for your efforts in finding a solution to your problems in the relationship, he or she does not care about you, does not love you and it’s time for you to make plans to get out of there before you get hurt worse than you have already been hurt
Please Share Your Experience And Comments
There are uncountable relationships with broken down or lack of communication issues who would benefit from this information, but I may not reach all of them. You may help to expand the reach of this information, with your comments after trying the recommended exercise, and by sharing this information with your friends. I will appreciate it. I would like more people with a break-down in communication in their relationships to use this simple but effective idea. Thank you for your visit. My next post will be super interesting and helpful, so come back soon. Follow me on twitter at: http://www.twitter.com/vincentonvey, Like me on facebook at: http://www.facebook.com/vincentonvey.